Patience is for everyone

By Xavier M. Coronado

I’m accustomed to navigate speedily through the web pages, story to blurb to blog, eager to scan for the main points as quickly as possible.

What ever happened to patience?  I suppose patience has been around for a long time.  I witness impatient people all around me whether it is in traffic or waiting in a line.

I partly blame the use of technology for our lack of patience.  When having breakfast, lunch, or dinner, I see groups of people dining together. However, conversations are quick as the main focus seems to be their hand held devices.

People seem too quick to post a “check-in” on social websites, notifying followers where they are located and who they’re accompanied with.

Does anyone really care about your exact whereabouts at every moment of your day?  I sadly have to say “probably not,” unless it’s your immediate family members, boyfriend or girlfriend.

The point is that social interaction has diminished due to our expectation of occurrences to move quickly, including dining with friends.  We have become extremely self-centered individuals.

We have also become an immediate gratification culture where we do expect things to move rapidly, hopefully efficiently and in the manner we want.  When we don’t get our immediate response as anticipated, we become frustrated, irritable, and even angry.

The desire for immediate results is not limited to the realm of digital communication.  People seem to be losing their ability to wait in other areas of life.

Fortunately, my work schedule is usually before or after 9 a.m. to 5p.m. traffic.   When I do happen to be sitting or maneuvering through gridlock traffic, I become extremely impatient and enraged.

Drivers who fail to signal when changing car lanes or turning corners are my greatest complaints.  I feel they should not only abide by the rules of the road, but be courteous enough to declare their interchange so that other fellow drivers can carry on and drive accordingly.  Otherwise, it’s rude not to signal and you may be the cause of an accident waiting to happen.

A recent study published by the American Medical Association specifically pointed to impatience as a risk factor for hypertension.  Such emotions can raise our stress level, which in turn can harm our health.

There are other health problems associated with the lack of patience.  The Washington Post reports that impatience is linked to obesity, “… impatient individuals are more likely to be obese than people who are good waiting.”

It’s no wonder fast food chains are successful.  Inexpensive fast food is easily available at all times of the day and many people pressed for time, including myself, sometimes cannot resist the readily accessibility of “fast food.”

Impatience may lead to procrastination and we postpone time consuming tasks.  Poor judgment can be another element as impatience is often followed by poor decisions.  Other consequences may lead to financial woes or loss of friends.

I try to become more patient every day every moment.  An older wise friend suggested I identify the causes that trigger my impatience.  Once I calculate my efforts in becoming patient it becomes a quality that comes naturally to me.

Things I have considered are to simplify my life, be realistic, and develop spirituality.  Wish me luck and signal people!

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