OPINION: Dating apps: the courtship of our generation

By Julie Santiago

Some people like to look down on online dating because they fear the unknown or what others might think of them, but online dating is simply just another way to meet people.

Online dating isn’t going away anytime soon. If anything it will most likely, according to some experts, become the future of dating.

Some people like to look back on dating generations ago, with romantic ideas of better values and higher morals, and while there

might be some truth to this idea, they are not willing to try other ways of dating, like dating apps.

Some people are not open to new experiences that they might actuallycome to nd are fun because theyare closed-minded or afraid.

Dating can be fun and in return teach you about yourself and help you grow as a person.

There are valid reasons for being afraid because creeps are everywhere, but like everything else if you are safe, you minimize the chances of unfortunate things from happening to you.

Dating is constantly changing. Modern dating, as we know, hasonly been around for a hundred years or so. The idea that class didn’t matter so long as you loved someone is relatively new. Romance didn’t exist.

For as long as humans have been around, arranged marriages for social status and money were normal. Your feelings didn’t matter.

If you were a woman hundreds of years ago your father could marry you off in exchange for money and goats for the family farm and there was nothing you could do about it.

If you were unfortunate enough to be unhappily married, you stayed miserable for life.

How much better are we now than before we got this freedom to choose someone?

According to American Psychological Association, about40 to 50 percent of married couplesin the United States divorce.

It’s been more than a hundred years after arranged marriages in the U.S. and we’re still not making the best choices.

Today, you can nd a date and possible partner one of ve ways.

First, you can just wait and hope you stumble upon somebody by chance.

Somehow the stars align in your favor like a Disney movie on your way to work or class and you meet someone.

Second, you could have your friends introduce you to someone they know that they might think you like.

However, friends are not dating coaches. They might get it wrong and you might resent them for it.

Third, you could also go to more social gatherings, like bars and clubs, but you risk meeting someone you have nothing in common with.

You also probably don’t make the best choices when you drink.

You could also meet someone through common interests, like a hobby, class or shared group activity. This is the better option of the previous listed but it still leaves you with limited options.

Or you can give the internet a shot.

Online dating and dating apps use location- tracking and algorithms that help you narrow down your options.

They can match you based on answered questions.

They allow you to filter for everything you can think of like age, gender, sexual orientation, attractiveness, hobbies, backgrounds, availability, personality traits and characteristics. There are even dating sites thatattract oddly speci c crowds likeclown dating for clowns, mullet passions for people with mullets, Ugly Schmucks for those with low self esteem and Diaper Mates for those with different kinks. They are less popular and you can imagine why. Nonetheless, there are a lot of options out there.

Each dating app has its appeal. Match.com and eHarmony are for the more serious older users looking to commit.

Tinder matches are based on location and mostly on your attractiveness.

OkCupid appeals to young people who are looking for a middle ground. They are more light hearted then Match.com, but not as carefree as tinder or even grindr.

Online dating is just another way for meeting people and it isn’t going away.

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